The Five Best Ways to Increase Your Confidence
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It eludes me. It sits so perfectly and shiny perched ever so proudly in the cupped hands extended toward me. I could easily reach out and scoop it right up out of those seemingly generous hands and place it ever so carefully on top of my head. Yet, I hold back because it gives off an untouchable air and if it could speak it would do so in a threatening voice saying, if you try it…I’ll dissolve into a pile of dust. The conversation continues inside my head…Don’t do it. Don’t touch me. But I want to. I need to. Please. I’ve wanted to wear you as a crown my entire life. Why have I waited this long and yet still you’re a gift that I can’t open? Mockingly it responds back with cutting words - you’re not worthy of it. You can’t handle it. It doesn’t belong to you and you don’t belong to me. As I drop my head turning to make my retreat, I hear its voice continuing to cut my heart, and ironically encouraging me to indeed turn around and get out of here…you’ll never get to wear me as your crown. Don’t come back either, because I belong to someone else.
I use to carry a verse written out on a small piece of paper in my pocket and I'd get it out when I needed to be reminded. Until one day I found that I could recall this verse from memory. It is on my list of top five verses and I'm so grateful that God gave me the capacity to learn and memorize His precious word to carry me through on those days that I'm tempted to go back to my old ways. Be sure to download your free printable at the end of this post and for those of you that are subscribers to the Lifestyle of Faith Library there's a new lock screen waiting for you to download with this verse.
"It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man." Psalm 118:8
It’s a shining star isn’t it? If I heard this word once these past few days, I’ve heard it a dozen times. Yet, it felt like a thousand. Like arrows piercing my heart. The truth of its ever-eluding power over me was reminding me once again that it’s an untouchable – at least where I’m concerned.
We were asked a question in Sunday School that sparked the whole internal-confidence-conversation thing for me. The question was for those that had served in a leadership position of any kind…of which I believe we all have in one form or another. “What was the thing you struggled with the most in your position?” The question was barely finished when I immediately knew my answer…confidence.
Although, I didn’t voice my answer to others…this was to be the word that would be repeated many times during our next hour or so together. Seriously, Lord? After the week I’ve had? I’m not up for this right now. Yes, child, came the ever so gentle answer. I have something for you this morning, please pay attention. Okay, Lord.
Confidence isn’t something we can conjure up on our own.
It’s not something we can’t have or achieve either. In fact, it comes only by the Spirit of God. We can’t be confident people on our own. If we think we are, we’re deceived. True confidence is from God. The only way to truly be transformed and changed to be more like Christ [confident] is through relationship with Him. By spending time with Him in prayer in the Bible. These are the two main ways He speaks to us. We must be immersed in Him. He’s what changes us. It’s the only way we can be examples to those around us. By immersing ourselves, learning, understanding…we become examples…we become more like Him. The natural result of spending time in His Word is confidence. Ouch. With that ouch, though, I can say that over my years spent in relationship with Jesus I can look back and see how far he has brought me in the confidence area. I’m not there yet and won’t be completely this side of Heaven, but He has shown me that He has in fact been working on me and there is growth with more confidence through Him as the result.
See the letters to Timothy from Paul. Timothy was struggling with confidence and Paul recognized this. He gave him instruction that is applicable to us. To sum up Paul’s advice that we discussed in Sunday School from the Gospel Project.
The 5 best ways to increase your confidence.
1. Be an example to everyone.
People are watching you as a Christian. Your family, your friends, your co-workers and definitely your enemies. Take the high road. Choose the narrow path. Believe me when I say the more you do this the more confident you become. Just remember, it's only through Christ you can be the example He's called you to be.
2. Proclaim the Word.
Choose a few verses or just one to memorize and speak out loud everyday. Pray it. Get it in your heart. There are so many ways to memorize scripture. I like to doodle things in my journal and draw or handletter these verses. I spend about a week or so focusing on one verse and truth. You'll be amazed at how confidence begins to take the place of fear in your mind and your heart.
3. Don’t neglect your spiritual gift(s).
God has knit each of us together for a specific plan and purpose. He has given each of gifts. Do you know what yours are? Find out and start putting them in to practice. When you begin to see God using you through your gifts you'll find you're more confident.
4. Continue to grow as a believer.
Growing in your relationship with Christ is the most important thing you can spend time investing in. As you grow the result will be more confidence. You'll find that the closer you are to Christ the less you experience fear.
Have you struggled with confidence? What has helped you? I'd love to hear about it!
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