How to Help Your Child When Their Feet Are In The Air
It's hard to be a teenager. It always has been. No matter what generation we're talking about.
I often hear people say, "if only I could go back...I'd do this or that differently." I wouldn't go back to being a teenager for love nor money! I remember being a teenager all too clearly. I was so naive. So fearless. Such a know it all. I was just so sure my life would end if things didn't go the way my heart so wanted them to go. I couldn't see past the end of my nose. The end of my thoughts. I couldn't wrap my mind around so many things. Why? Because I hadn't gained the knowledge, the wisdom that life teaches us through experience. I still need that wisdom. Even though I loathe the fact that wisdom comes through experiences, most of the time. Usually unfriendly ones.
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. Proverbs 9:10
Don’t abandon wisdom, and she will watch over you; love her, and she will guard you. Wisdom is supreme—so get wisdom. And whatever else you get, get understanding. Proverbs 4:6-7
Proverbs is a good place to start when it comes to wisdom. Ask for wisdom.
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. James 1:5
To search for it like we would for money.
and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, Proverbs 2:4
It says that we will always need to add to our wisdom. I once heard someone say at a seminar that teenagers are at a place in their lives that their feet are up in the air. They're trying to figure out if they believe for themselves everything we've been teaching them. They have come to a point in their lives that they have to choose for themselves what they believe and how they will live. They have to begin to find that wisdom, to seek it, to ask for it. To find out who they are. I don't believe there's a set age, but I do know that it happens in those years. I also know that it takes some longer than others. That's okay.
So, how do we as parents, help them?
We've been in their shoes. But we haven't been here....parents of teenagers. We have to seek that wisdom. We must ask for it. We need to apply what we've learned in those same experiences. We already fiercely love them. Most of all, we should pray. Pray continuously. Sow in prayer. We must go to battle in prayer for our children. It may also require taking a step back. Letting them go. For me, as a parent, letting go is in the top five list of the hardest things I've ever done. If you're where I am, what are your thoughts....what nugget do you have to share?
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