Look Me In the Eyes
Are you a type A or type B personality? I'm the B type. That's why the book, My Life as a Bystander, was so appealing to me. The author consistently used the phrase "minding my own business." That's me. I lean toward being the don't-make-eye-contact~don't-get-involved~save-yourself~wallflower kind of girl.
It's really unfortunate to avoid people. To not get involved. We live in a microwave society revolving around me, myself & I. How many times have we found ourselves in a situation or on the other side of a choice & wondered how we got there. Wondered why no one bothered to warn us. One. We were in too big of a hurry to stop & ask ourselves questions or because we can't even look in the mirror and be honest with ourselves. And two. We didn't bother to ask for help because, quite frankly, there aren't many people who want to "get involved" and look you in the eye to ask hard questions and we sure don't want their honesty!
On the other hand, I'm also the type to ask questions. Most of the time it only happens inside my head. The ever popular what-when-why-where-how questions. What am I doing here? When did I get here? Why didn't someone stop me? Where is the door out of here? How am I going to fix this? I don't believe I even need to ask this question, but I'm going to anyway. Do you have regrets, choices you've made that you wish you could go back & change? We all do. I know in my life I've asked this question. Why didn't someone stop me? Why didn't someone warn me? Or why didn't someone stop them? Where were there parents? So on & so on.....
I don't want to be in such a hurry that I miss a chance to encourage someone along the way..."Thanks for all your hard work, you're doing a great job!" To extend grace. "It's ok, I have days like that too." To show love. "Here, let me do that." To warn someone. Flashing your head lights at a car telling them about a cop down the road. To ask hard questions of someone, questions we don't necessarily like asked of us, but deep down really wish they would. "Are you sure this is the right thing to do, have you prayed about this?" To lay aside the selfish attitude of thinking, I've got enough problems of my own.
What personality type are you? Does it really matter? I don't think so. I think what really matters is "getting involved." Taking the time to notice people. To get off the side lines and make eye contact. To slow down and pay attention.
Love one another: just as I have love you, you also are to love one another. John 13:34
Let love be genuine. Hate what i evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Romans 12:9-10
I pray that your love will grow more and more. And let it be based on knowledge and understanding. Then you will be able to know what is best. You will be pure and without blame until the day Christ returns. You will be filled with the fruit of right living produced by Jesus Christ. All of those things bring glory and praise to God. Philippians 1:9-11